I got a package in the mail the other day from Remco Memorials. They make headstones and the like. My immediate reaction to receiving this propaganda was I was insulted. I imagined they got my name from somewhere. Perhaps deaths are public knowledge through a list at vital statistics or they cruised the obits. At any rate they got my name and address and included a personalised letter.
After my initial response I ignored reading the materials for a while then sat down and took a closer look. I think things have changed over the years and there certainly are lots more options than the basic stones. It got me thinking. When people die and are buried in a casket they do normally mark the site with a stone. When people are cremated and interred in the cemetery they might do the same thing. When ashes are scattered do people place a marker anywhere? Is it tradition or is it just a need? What does it all mean- to have or not have a marker? If I were to have a marker what would it be? When I die do I want a marker? Do we need to visit the spot? The stones certainly provide some history and they are a reminder of birth and death dates.
Lee did not tell me what she wanted other than to be 'mostly buried' on our land. I'll continue to ponder ....
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