http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w441tko3bWY&feature=em-share_video_user
The above link is a video clip that Kathy did for me after her January visit here. She certainly experienced every kind of winter weather while here.
Tuesday 29 January 2013
Monday 21 January 2013
Milestones passed
Christmas has come and gone and so has the new year. These are known as milestones in the first year of grief. "They" say these times of the year can be hard for many reasons. I am reminded of the many Christmas's Lee worked at the hospital and she would come home to a turkey dinner that I had prepared. We just got used to that day as a work day. I certainly missed her saying grace this year. She always did such a good job and made it sounds very inclusive. Her presence was missed that's for sure.
New Years came and went and was uneventful. We all went to bed at the usual time and did not ring in the new year. I always enjoyed January 1 and this year was as usual. Me enjoying the day.
I got an email in January from a supervisor at Lee's work. The chaplain phone received a message from a former patient of Lee's. The gentleman wished Lee a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. He had improved in the hospital since Lee provided spiritual care for him and now he wanted to thank her. He was shocked to hear of Lee's death when he was called with this new information.
I so often hear stories about Lee's contributions to this world and they were many. I also hear from people who attended the celebration of her life. I may not have had a chance to talk to them that day but they still tell me what a wonderful service we had for her.
This January I received a phone call from my young brother. His partners son just lost his father in an accident on the road. Oh what pain I felt for him. I was lucky. I was older and had a great life. This young boy will have to learn how to live with this loss. The early days of a loss are so darned raw so painful. I really feel for him.
I still think about Lee often. Thoughts of her used to predominate my life. Not any more and this is a sign of moving long this path of grief.
My new relationship with Kathy has certainly been a distraction and a blessing all at the same time. It is so easy to talk about our former partners and so natural. There is room in our relationship for them. There is acceptance and patience to deal with bursts of grief whenever they crop up. We are simply convinced both Judy and Lee would bless this relationship whole heartily. It is good thing.
Kathy visited for 10 days and just went back to Parksville having experienced the worst kind of January. Rain, melting, -35 you name it we had it. Blowing snow, howling winds, snowbanks in the yard, people stuck on the road out front of here. She really got a taste of winter and she passed the test. She grew up in Cranbrook and this reminded her a lot of her childhood.
Our connection has progressed rapidly and deeply so much so that Kathy is moving here early March. I look around and see how life simply goes on. We can resist change, attempt to ignore it but in the end I am embracing what is coming to me. I remain open open open. It feels so darned right. I remain fearless and in the moment the majority of the time and forever grateful for my time with Lee and for this new opportunity. I will not ignore it and I will not waste a moment.
New Years came and went and was uneventful. We all went to bed at the usual time and did not ring in the new year. I always enjoyed January 1 and this year was as usual. Me enjoying the day.
I got an email in January from a supervisor at Lee's work. The chaplain phone received a message from a former patient of Lee's. The gentleman wished Lee a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. He had improved in the hospital since Lee provided spiritual care for him and now he wanted to thank her. He was shocked to hear of Lee's death when he was called with this new information.
I so often hear stories about Lee's contributions to this world and they were many. I also hear from people who attended the celebration of her life. I may not have had a chance to talk to them that day but they still tell me what a wonderful service we had for her.
This January I received a phone call from my young brother. His partners son just lost his father in an accident on the road. Oh what pain I felt for him. I was lucky. I was older and had a great life. This young boy will have to learn how to live with this loss. The early days of a loss are so darned raw so painful. I really feel for him.
I still think about Lee often. Thoughts of her used to predominate my life. Not any more and this is a sign of moving long this path of grief.
My new relationship with Kathy has certainly been a distraction and a blessing all at the same time. It is so easy to talk about our former partners and so natural. There is room in our relationship for them. There is acceptance and patience to deal with bursts of grief whenever they crop up. We are simply convinced both Judy and Lee would bless this relationship whole heartily. It is good thing.
Kathy visited for 10 days and just went back to Parksville having experienced the worst kind of January. Rain, melting, -35 you name it we had it. Blowing snow, howling winds, snowbanks in the yard, people stuck on the road out front of here. She really got a taste of winter and she passed the test. She grew up in Cranbrook and this reminded her a lot of her childhood.
Our connection has progressed rapidly and deeply so much so that Kathy is moving here early March. I look around and see how life simply goes on. We can resist change, attempt to ignore it but in the end I am embracing what is coming to me. I remain open open open. It feels so darned right. I remain fearless and in the moment the majority of the time and forever grateful for my time with Lee and for this new opportunity. I will not ignore it and I will not waste a moment.
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